As a kid I was a "people pleaser" and was VERY concerned about who did & did not like me. I wanted everyone to think I was nice & all of the other kids to be my friends- which made a "pushover."
In college I met many people who had different upbringings, beliefs & ideas; basically they were not like me and often I did not speak to them bc I, honestly, had nothing to say- I was then perceived as a "bitch."
As an adult I have developed opinions, ideas & interests that are not always the same as people who I am in contact with every day. At first I was nervous & intimidated to be who I am, voice my thoughts & be myself- what if I am challenged or have to defend myself? What if I end up in a conflict? That isn't what the "people pleasing" kid in me would do....It is def what the "Bitchy Corinne" would do! I have had many internal disputes that sound exactly like this.
So, here is the thing... I have ONE job in this life and that is to be AUTHENTICALLY ME. When I am being authentically myself I will be a stronger, more confident, HAPPIER me. I will be a better MOM and WIFE and TEACHER and FRIEND and SISTER and DAUGHTER. I will believe in myself & then if & when I am challenged I will have the words & confidence to be myself & voice my opinion- IF I choose to.... basically-
I do NOT have to have the same thoughts about
Politics
Religion
Education
Economics
Family
Parenting
Marriage
Health
to be your friend- I DO have to have to respectful our differences & be authentic to who I am so that we can RESPECT one another, know one another well and develop an AUTHENTIC friendship.
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